Today's the day my wife would have had the pregnancy test had we made it to transfer day. I had to go to the hospital for a scan today to check for osteoporosis as I'm at high risk due to my hypopituitarism. I was sat in the waiting room before my appointment and couldn't help … Continue reading 16. Life goes on…
Ok, I'm going to start with the outcome, we've failed, again. We received a phonecall from the embyology team yesterday to say that only 1 of the 4 eggs they retrieved was mature enough to inject and sadly that 1 egg had not fertilised. So instead of being back at the clinic today for an … Continue reading 15. That didn’t quite go according to plan!!!
We had our last scan on Monday and we told we're ready to go for egg collection today. We had 2 at 22mm, 1 at 20mm and 1 at 17mm. They need to be at least 18mm before they'll consider attempting the collection procedure. The last injections were taken later on Monday and I received … Continue reading 14. We’re going on an egg hunt
So last minute we worked out that we could fit attempt 2 in just before the school hols, so the 2ww will be in the first 2 weeks giving my wife plenty of r&r time. Then one way or another, we still have time to fit in a small break away without worrying about the … Continue reading 13. Here we go again
When is the right time to try for a baby? Well when you're spending several months salary on ivf/icsi the answer is when your wife is going to be the least stressed. I say least stressed because life by its very nature is full of stressful situations. Being a school teacher immediately puts my wife … Continue reading 12. Life gets in the way
Our meeting with the Professor of Embryology happened. It didn't really give us any answers or reassurances, but it wasn't negative either. She spent half an hour giving us more information about our embies; one had unusually split initially into 3 not 2 and another had uneven pronuclei. Importantly though, they all survived the icsi … Continue reading 11. Meeting with the Professor of Embryology
So we had our follow-up consultation this week after our first icsi cycle failed just before Christmas. It started badly before we even arrived, with my wife picking up a voicemail while we were driving there to say our appointment had been cancelled. Since we were only 5 minutes from arriving at the hospital I … Continue reading 10. The follow-up
Since we've entered the purgatory that exists between cycles, I thought that I would take time to reflect on my feelings and share some of the initial responses since writing this blog. I'm so pleased that I was inspired by my friend to write this blog. The first 8 posts have helped me to collect … Continue reading 9. Initial response to my blog
It's been almost 2 months since that ill-fated, cold December morning. Though the pain has faded, the sorrow of our failure has not. Whether it's photos of our family and friend's babies babies posted on social media, or passing pregnant ladies/young families out in town, constant triggers for our grief are everywhere. Please don't judge … Continue reading 8. What next?
So it hadn't worked. My wife wasn't pregnant and we weren't going to start our family. I felt numb as we sat in the room. Somewhere in the distance, through the fog that had engulfed my brain, I could hear the nurse explaining that we would have to wait at least 2 pms cycles until … Continue reading 7. The aftermath